For many of us, this is a large holiday weekend, and really a month! Regardless of if you’re observing Easter, Ramadan, Passover, or any holiday or observation this month, this blog serves as a good reminder. Instead of repeating holiday-centered content, I wanted to share some discussion on how you can avoid peer pressure during the holidays and into the summer.

In my professional and personal life, I’m surrounded by people with various goals. Perhaps it’s health-related, like abstaining from alcohol or monitoring nighttime mindless snacking. Perhaps it’s physical, like following a strength goal, or increasing total mileage. It could even be emotional, like seeking therapy or connecting with family members again. Everyone has their own goals and we should honor and respect what they are. However, during this time of year, it’s easy to be faced with temptation and peer pressure. Many of our friends may ask us, poke fun at us, and truly not understand why we’re choosing those goals. Typically, it’s coming from a place of love, they want you to feel involved and make sure you’re enjoying yourself. But this mindset can also create guilt.

Here are some strategies for you to stay in control of your journey, and to be a better example and role model for respecting others with their goals:

  1. Reflect
    • Take time in the morning, evening, afternoon or whenever it is fitting for your schedule to ask yourself what you’re seeking. Envision what that person would feel like. How would that person feel? What would they accomplish?
  2. Mindfulness
    • Listen to your body before anyone else. Are you hungry, or are you being social? If you are hungry, decide what foods will fuel you most
    • Savor. Put your utensil down between bites. Take sips of water. Talk with your company.
  3. Swaps
    • If you’re going to drinks with friends/family, perhaps opt for a mocktail if you’re not drinking alcohol
    • If you’re going for pizza with friends/family, opt for something with veggies added
    • If you’re getting coffee with friends/family, get a pastry full of fiber, like a nut-seed bar
  4. Portion
    • You’re celebrating and that’s great! Food often means celebration. Perhaps gammy made her five-star mac and cheese. Have some! But balance it with veggies and try just a taste to start. You may not even want more after!
  5. Share
    • Much like mental health, we have to shatter the norms of talking about our goals and well being. If you’re stuck in a situation and hear, “hey, have a drink, it’s not going to kill you!” you can simply respond with, “No, thank you. I’m choosing to take a break from alcohol to reevaluate my relationship with alcohol. I’m having a great time with you all drinking by club soda!” Make people think. You never know who may be going through a similar situation.

If you ever need help deciding how to make goals, consider reaching out to find out what coaching can offer you.